Over the years, I have worked with couples struggling with the effects of one or both parties getting entrapped in sexual behaviors and porn usage that they could not easily stop and which ultimately hurt the relationship. Wow. Now we have brain scans that show us what is going on. Hopefully, these scans will help us help those find a way out of the entrapment. When someone uses porn compulsively, their brain has the same activity or response as someone addicted to alcohol or drugs. Get details of this study and more really good information at Yourbrainonporn.com. A Very good resource for anyone who wishes to understand how pornography usage can become a problem. The original research is included in a documentary on pornography called Porn on the Brain (Warning: Film contains some very graphic scenes), which aired September 30, 2013. This UK documentary explores children's exposure to explicit and hard-core porn on the internet. A must watch for parents. Note: It is not easy to watch.
Keeping the love alive over time. Ester has some interesting things to say about this. Happiness, security and and sexual spark in a long term relationship are something we can actually attain.
"I feel so special when you take time from your busy day to message me a sweet little note, then I know I am on your mind. I feel so safe when you hold me in your arms and tell me you love me and I am your world, I know you will protect me until the end of time. I feel so blessed to have you in my life, being loved by you makes my world a more beautiful place."~Karen Kostyla
This is a good and interesting series worth looking at if porn is causing problems in your relationship. Psychology Today has a good summary of this information as well. Follow the thread to get the details. Another helpful article I found by an Marriage and Family Therapist.
Therapists who can help:
John Wiskind, LCSW, MPH | CA License: LCS22185
(510) 292-9090 | firstname.lastname@example.org
538 Hayes St., S.F., CA 94102 | 2820 Adeline St., Berkeley, CA 94703
Dominique Samuels, PsyD 415.358.4906 email@example.com
2536 Clay Street, SF, CA
Sand Chang, Ph.D.Licensed Psychologist PSY 22098
3852 Piedmont Avenue Oakland, CA 94611 (510) 545-2321 firstname.lastname@example.org
Rick Gomes, LMFT 510-333-2386 5776 Stoneridge Mall Road, Suite 240 Pleasanton CA 94588
Rebecca Jorgensen, PhD 10065 Old Grove Rd., Suite 102 San Diego, CA 92131-1799 www.trieft.org
Sandy Jardine, M.S. LPC (480) 990-9128 Douglas Jardine, Ph.D, LMFT (602) 538-9094
7411 E. 6th Ave. Suite 204 Scottsdale, AZ 85251
Paula Zerfoss, LICSW Boston, MA 617-981-3002 email@example.com
Robyn E. Brickel, M.A., LMFT 300 N. Washington Street Suite # 305 Alexandria, VA 22314
(703) 518-8883 firstname.lastname@example.org
Alan Zwerdling, Ph.D. 170 Highway 35, Red Bank, NJ 07701 (732) 936-1212 email@example.com
Irene Oudyk-Suk, MSW, RSW Toronto Canada (416) 459-0956
Psychotherapist and Relationship Specialist