I think that Valentine's Day, like other holidays, can bring up all kinds of mixed emotions. I also think there are things out there that confuse us even more about love, sex, and bonding like the Shades of Grey movie coming out tomorrow. It is nice that we can turn to sensible and researched ideas to clear out our heads. Sue Johnson's article provides an island of calm in a sea of confusion that surrounds how we think about and understand love, sex, and bonding. I know it comforts me to know that we can make sense out of this thing we call love. It also helps me stay focused as I encourage and guide couples to create a real sense of hope and love. Bonding to other human beings in a positive and loving way is the best medicine ever! Check out: The Real Secret to Having a Great Valentines Day.