Sue talks candidly about her life, her mission and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
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In EFT we seek to help couples connect and learn to be present and in tune with the softer and more tender emotions that underlie our reactivity. According to research, this is one of the most important factors in a healthy, loving, and long lasting bond. Tuning in to what is really going on with one's partener helps them feel safe, understood, and loved. We often lose that sense of safety when there are fights and disagreements but being present at other times puts good will in the emotional bank account so we can weather the rockier times in a relationship. Below Sue Johnson discusses this in detail. This is a good non-judgmental series on pornography. Really worth watching for the science behind it. Brain Heart World. There is a free link and a pay link. I found it objective and educational. Especially helpful if you have teens or tweens. Free to watch during November.
By Naomi Rather, LCMHC and Deborah Curtis, LICSW founders of Seacoast EFTThis is a great podcast focusing on how to help parents manage a step family and all of its complexity from dating to a more committed relationship. The focus is attachment and connection and loyalty issues. A really great listen!
We had a lovely 2 part chat. I think the most optimum way to make change is find a space of calm and acceptence. This state is the springbard for real change. After I interveiwed Dr. Dashtban about T.E.A.M therapy, I realized that this is why this therapy is so affective. It creates this state. This is not your ordinary cognitive therapy! If you are interested in learning about this approach and have the time, this is a great place to start. I already used some of what I have learned to help people grow and feel safe and heard. This seems like a really empowering model, which is very compatible with Emotionally Focused Therapy I use and help others learn. To find out even more about Katie and her team, check out this website. Summary
Testing: In each and every session we use a measuring test to read scores of depression, anxiety, anger, suicidality and even positive feelings and relationship satisfaction.
And at the end of each session patients give a score to the level of empathy they received from me and the helpfulness of the session. Empathy: Using highly specific techniques of empathy we seek to deeply understand the way my patient is experiencing a heartfelt or a challenging situation. We convey empathic understanding with my patient and check to see if they feel heard and understood. Agenda Setting: Arguably the most challenging part of the course of therapy. Patients often feel stuck with the proposed changes ahead of them for reasons that are actually quite understandable; in fact even have very awesome and neat reasons not to change. So, letting go of a proposed mood issue might not be that easy if one feels the outcome might not be that desirable. Likewise, the process of healing is in and of itself is challenging for many patients, so we use a paradoxical approach, which often helps patients see the worth of stepping up and rolling up their sleeves to change. Methods: All based on Cognitive and Behavioral approaches, but also uses any technique that might work nicely for a given patient. In fact there is a tremendous amount of “Role Plays”, that reminds me of Gestalt Therapy and there is a good amount of compassion based, and even humor based techniques, a fair amount of exposure techniques, all borrowed from the wisdom of a variety of therapeutic approaches.
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This came through on my emotionally focused therapy listserv. I listened to it and thought it was really good and a great resource for people to begin to figure out whether or not they are dealing with or bumping up agains someone with possible traits. Well, worth the listen. The couch Podcast.
This is what we work on first in couples therapy. We help a couple come together and fight against the negative pattern that has over taken them and caused distress. Once this is accomplished deep rebounding and healing of the relationship can occur. The cycle de-ecalation stage is the usually the longest part of the therapy. Identifying and calming the cycle seems easy but for true de-escaation several things need to happen.
Partners need to be able to: 1. Identify their own position in the cycle 2. Own their position 3. Access softer emotions underlying their position 4. Own their softer emotions 5. Place the softer emotions into the cycle 6.Link partner's behavior to their own attachment emotions and their own reactive emotions 7.Link their own behavior to attachment emotions and partner's reactivity 8. Have a coherent story of the negative interaction cycle as the enemy 9. See partner as more fearful and dangerous 10.Identify cycle in the here and now 11.Interupt the cycle in a way that allows them to fight it together Once a couple can become a team against the cycle deep bonding can occur. |
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