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How to Make Love Last In The Age of Instant Gratification: Dr. Sue Johnson

7/13/2014

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Can love last forever through the ups and downs of life? Couples therapist Dr. Sue Johnson explains what it really takes to make a relationship work. This is really good.


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Profound Poem by my Yoga Teacher

1/5/2014

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Poem by one of my Yoga Teachers Kiara McBain. It is profound.

Tonight I realized 
life is clean and simple
a mere blank canvas on which to create
it's people that make life complicated
the mess of another 
makes a mess of our own life
I wanted to swear to stay away
from broken hearts 
and broken people
but the hard truth is
very few sort out their demons
very few know themselves enough to live honestly
and very few look at life as an opportunity to learn
so it is our job to love 
the messy landscape of humanity
as if adoring a sunset
with all its bleeding lines
lack of definition
and gleaming imperfections

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Emotionally Focused Therapy Research

12/11/2013

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"Landmark study shows that Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help couples understand their relationship better, reduce conflicts and create secure, loving bonds that can soothe brains."


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Secure Attachment

12/1/2013

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This is such a lovely story from StoryCorps that I think is a great example of a loving relationship. Wishing this for everybody. If we can create this at home, perhaps we can take it to the world.
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Thich Nhat Hanh on Love

5/13/2013

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In every interaction we have with our partner there is the opportunity to heal. I guess that is truly what love is, a dynamic powerful healing agent. We, especially partners, are deeply connected and attached to each other. Science tells us that the way we communicate can impact each other's brains, for good or for ill. I guess we can build each other up or tear one another down. I image just like me, you too desire to do good. In this video, we get some tools for creating and maintaining love and secure attachment.

The 4 Mantras:

1. Darling, I am here for you.
2. Darling, I know you are there.
3. Darling, I know you suffer and that is why I am here for you.
4. Darling, I suffer. I do my best to practice. Please help.

Listen to this great video for a deeper understanding and advice on how to love.
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Mostly John Gottman, PhD.  Research

5/2/2013

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Yahoo posted a nice summary of the research on relationship enhancers: The 10 Ways to Improve your Relationship.

1. Solidify your friendship.
2. Appreciate each other.
3. Concentrate on the present to ensure a future.
4. Don't Distort.
5. Share power.
6. Find common goals.
7. Understand anger.
8. Break negative cycles.
9. Focus on what's fixable.
10. Accept the unsolvable.

As the title of this suggests, most of this is based on John Gottman's research. Any of his books on relationships will give you detailed information on how keep on enhancing your relationship. It is good stuff. Common sense but important to be reminded of as we live our lives in this very busy complicated world. We need our partners now more than ever. But for various reasons, creating and maintaining a safe and secure attachment can get blocked. Use these principles to open up the flow between you and your lover.
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Stuff in the News You May Find Interesting Relating to Mental Health, Family, and Relationships from our FB page . . .

12/1/2012

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NPR report on new Mental Health Diagnostic Bible.
Those with alcohol dependence may be more sensitive.
Long Term Relationships.
Mindfulness and cancer recovery.
Emotional Infidelity.
Early Relationships key to happiness in life.

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Emotionally Focused Therapy

5/31/2012

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Since April I have been doing a small class for therapists once a month introducing them to Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT. I do not really consider myself a teacher but felt I wanted to be a part of spreading the good news about EFT. I love EFT and helping couples come together using it. I see couples go from distress and disconnection to peace and connection with each other. It is a joy to see this healing take place and I really wanted to show other therapists how to do this. It has been fun teaching others this therapy. So, what exactly is Emotionally Focused Therapy?

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What Makes Love Work? Therapy that Works! by Scott Woolley, Ph,D.

6/16/2011

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Interview with and paper by Dr. Susan Johnson on Relationships

3/12/2011

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Have you ever wondered why you do what you do in your love relationship? Why is it that in other areas of life you feel competent and strong but when you are in love you feel so vulnerable? For answers to these questions and more either listen or read on.


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    • Science of Love
    • Steps and Stages of Emotionally Focused Therapy
    • Why Choose Emotionally Focused Therapy?
    • Emotionally Focused Therapy and Diversity
    • EFT MRI Handholding Research
    • EFT Research
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