In EFT we seek to help couples connect and learn to be present and in tune with the softer and more tender emotions that underlie our reactivity. According to research, this is one of the most important factors in a healthy, loving, and long lasting bond. Tuning in to what is really going on with one's partener helps them feel safe, understood, and loved. We often lose that sense of safety when there are fights and disagreements but being present at other times puts good will in the emotional bank account so we can weather the rockier times in a relationship. Below Sue Johnson discusses this in detail.
Evelyn Schmechtig Cochran