I’ve been a therapist for 30 years, now. And, I think we are in the most exciting time ever regarding our field. We have so much research regarding what works and doesn’t work related to helping people. It is pretty amazing. I love it.
Here, at Windows of Opportunity Counseling Services, our tagline or motto is, “Marriage and Family Therapists helping individuals, couples and families create and sustained meaningful relationships.” We are trained in the basics plus many other techniques that move people toward this goal of emotional and social health. I chose this tagline because this what the field of Marriage and Family Therapy is all about. This is what we are connected to.
We are complex physical, biological, emotional and social creations. I often point to Sugar while in a session and say. ”We are pack animals just like she is. We need each other to survive and heal, to love and grow, and to live and even die.” We regulate each other during both the good times and the bad. This is how are wired. We can either agitate or soothe each other. Most of us desire to soothe or be soothe but struggle to understand how. We end up agitating or being agitated. We feel sad and disconnected when all we want is to be connected and understood. It hard sometimes, right?
Just taking a cursory look at this website, one would get we are a huge fan of Emotionally Focused Therapy. I personally began my journey in this model in 2005 by reading Dr. Susan Johnson’s first book, taking many trainings, getting supervision of my work and finally getting certified as an EFT Therapist and Supervisor, Frankly, this process was harder than becoming licensed in this field and to stay relevant, I study something daily in this and other compatible models to deepen and enrich my skill set. I believe if applied properly and if the clients are willing to do the work, EFT really helps people.”
The cool thing is that it looks like all my work to master EFT has not been in vain and my efforts have been truly worth it. I am a clinician and not a researcher or academic. But, I rely on the academics, people like Dr. Sue Johnson and others, to prove that what we do really works. As any therapy, EFT is not only broad and deep but intertwined with may other confirmed theories that support what we know and understand about human nature. It is too much for one person to prove and support on their own. Proving, refining and making better what we do has been a real team effort. Here is a summary of research over the past 19 years.that shows us we are heading in the right direction with Emotionally Focused Therapy after all. Hooray! check it out. Thank you, Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen , for sharing this on your facebook page.
Evelyn Schmechtig Cochran