This morning as I was dressing for work I was reminded of the power of words, and how they have energetic impact that can linger for years. The simple act of putting on a pair of earrings reminded me of something unkind someone said to me years ago, bringing up a tinge of self-doubt, causing me to question something I have always done and believe in deeply. The comment was, "Those earrings are for old ladies. They make you look old." Ouch!
I have always deeply believed that, at least for me, I should dress for myself. Dressing feels like an art and I usually enjoy decorating myself. I generally don't do it for anybody but myself. So why would words from years ago ring in my ears and cause me to question my internal sense of personal fashion and confidence, even for a second? The answer to this is because, in my opinion, words have energy and power to either heal and uplift or be damaging and destructive.
From a book I read called Power vs. Force, by David R. Hawkins, MD, I learned that words can be tested and calibrated at different energetic vibration levels. This all may sound a bit out there but makes sense when you look at examples. Think of the feeling that arises in yourself when you think of the word thrifty. Now think about the word cheap. Can you sense the difference? No? Try saying this out loud, "That person is cheap." Now try this, "That person is thrifty." Feel the difference? I do not know about you but the different words cause me to use completely different intonation when articulating the different sentences. I find this fascinating. Interestingly and according to Hawkins, the reason for this is that thrifty would calibrate on a much higher energetic level than cheap would when tested. Theoretically, the higher the level the more loving the word, sentence, or intent.
So how does this relate to communication, families, or relationships? Are we to walk on eggshells trying to be perfect and only saying the polite thing all the time? I do not think so. However, I do think we need to be aware that what we say may have a lasting impact on another person. I do not know about you but I want to be truthful yet loving and uplifting, regardless. It saddens me to think that my words could cause a lasting negative impact. Therefore, I think that this is the bottom line. We can either uplift or tear down with our words. So what would it hurt to be more attuned and careful, especially with our loved ones?
Just a little food for thought.
Evelyn Schmechtig Cochran